Firstly, the term swingers, or swinging must be applied "loosely", there are many variations of swinging and indeed many levels, not all swingers simply "shag" other people or attend orgies. Swinging can be anything from simply watching others have sex, having sex in the same room, light touching, oral only, to full swapping, intercourse and group sex. In most cases swinging is about socialising and making friends too, swinging couples will often socialise together in a non sexual way too. In reality there are so many couples and singles that are into swinging that you are sure to know some already, of course, most choose to keep it discreet, so identifying swingers can be difficult. This is why many coupes choose to visit a swingers party or social meeting place, there, at least, you will know that everyone is interested in some level of swinging. Visit any swingers party and you will soon realise that swingers are just "every day" couples, just like you!  The term swinging, also know as "wife swapping", "play couples" or "the lifestyle", generally applies to couples and indeed is a couples only lifestyle. Of course, there are some couples who will choose a single man or woman to join them, however this is rare, so it is more difficult to enter into swinging if you are single.

 

Why people choose to swing.

 

No one should ever go into a swinging life style if they are at all uncertain of their own wishes or  the strength of their emotional relationship with their partner. The Swinger's "life style" is based upon communication more then any other factors. Couples involved in swinger’s lifestyle should have the ability to talk openly about there feelings with one another. Learning to do this must precede any decision or discussion of entering the life style. Too often in relationships, little honest communication takes place about jealousy for example. This is because these ideas are never challenged in a traditional monogamous relationships until cheating occurs which is often devastating to the relationship. Open relationships force couples to deal with these issues and be conscious of them instead of just assuming the other will never have an interest in anyone else. Many couples say, by dealing with these issues honestly, it has made their relationship much stronger and swinging has fulfilled them in a way they never thought possible! Beware that while it may seem like a good idea... a many times the fantasy makes for a very emotionally upsetting reality. Bottom line is,  swinging is not for everyone. You may have a perfectly healthy monogamous relationship and simply enjoy keeping it just the two of you like most people do..

 

There are many reasons why people choose to swing, of course the obvious one that springs to mind is a love of sex, but it goes much further than that! Swinging is often a social activity, swingers parties are often the meeting places of regular attendants who meet to socialise with friends, have a drink and "play" with people they feel comfortable with. A good way to bring up the subject of swinging with a Partner is to talk about sexual fantasies, particularly those sexual fantasies that involve other people. Once you have established that your fantasies can be more of a source of excitement than a threat, it is much easier to begin talking in terms of bringing those fantasies into the real world.

 

You can't "swing" without your spouse's knowledge and consent. That isn't swinging. You would be having an affair. Swinging requires two consenting adults who are open to the idea of participating in the lifestyle together. Most swinging couples are not going to have anything to do with someone who is sneaking around on a spouse. Swingers as a group are very proud of the fact that they are open and honest about their sexuality.  There are many reasons why people choose to swing,  to explore their sexuality and sensuality in new ways that they find are not easily to accept in traditional communities.

 

Swinging is also a good way for bi-curious women and men to explore their potential bisexuality.  The level of Bisexuality in female swingers is very high, although many people think that swinging is derived from a male desire to sleep with other women, in reality this is not true, it is often women who introduce men into the lifestyle.  Swinging allows both men and women the opportunity to reject monogamy,  and learn lots more about their sexual interests. Swinging can enhance a relationship and the commitment involved in the couple’s relationship. We live in a wonderful world filled with beautiful people. Sex is normal and for most people sex is good. Once you take those small steps to sexual freedom, you will find your partner and you experiencing a journey together that is unparalleled by anything that the “straights” enjoy.

 

 

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Looks, age and shoe size unimportant!

 

You don't need to be "body perfect" or amazingly attractive to enjoy the benefits of swinging, of course, if you are then that may help with your confidence, but swingers are made up of all types of people. Larger ladies and mature women often get a huge confidence boost when they start swinging, the attentions of another man and realising that they are still found attractive by people other than their "trusty" partners is a great "boost" for a woman. Swinging is a great way to bring back "self confidence" for both the man and woman, although too much lack of confidence can prevent people from ever trying it.

 

Some types of swinging that people enjoy.

Same room sex (couples have sex with their own partners in the same room )
Soft swinging (some flirting, touching, kissing or masturbation may be allowed )
Full swinging ( Full sex between couples either in the same room or separately)
Group swinging (House parties that may include group sex between many couples)
Threesomes (single male or female to join in sometimes with Bi sexual curiosuty)
Foursomes ( Two couples get together and share each other in the same room)

 

The Myths about swinging and polyamory.

1. Swinging is a modern lifestyle of the lower classes.
We laugh when we hear this comment, swinging and indeed polyamory relationships have been around for centuries. In fact they started in secret between the "higher classes", swinging was once almost an exclusive secret society amongst some of the world most wealthy people. It can be said that only in recent times has swinging been more widely accepted in all walks of life.

2. Swingers are asking for trouble in their relationship or marriage.
It must be said that swinging is not for everyone, however it is a lifestyle choice that suits many couples and singles alike. It takes a lot of trust and understanding in the relationship and requires the banishment of certain negative feeling such as jealousy. That said many couples enjoy swinging for many years and most claim that it improved their relationship, a lesser percentage of regular swinging couples get divorced or face the problems of betrayal within the relationship. Those who did encounter problems were most probably encountering problems in the relationship before they tried swinging.

3. Swinging is immoral and irresponsible.
Well most swingers would disagree, but of course, just as in any lifestyle, you will find those less responsible than others. Most true swingers get to know the people they share with well, they practice safe sex and choose people carefully as swinging partners. Swinging is not really about "shagging" as many people as you can without consideration, true swingers share with a few carefully selected people that often become lifelong friends. 

 

Open relationships and Polyamory.

Having an open relationship probably requires even more trust in your partner. However it is still the choice for many couples in these modern times. In an open relationship one or both members of the couple are free to engage in intimacy and other relationships outside of the primary relationship. Sometimes this only goes so far as some couples make rules as to how far the other is allowed to go within the secondary relationship. An open relationship requires utmost faith in your partner, total honesty and trust. But there are thousands of couples into swinging and in open relationships that really do work. Plenty of people do find a way to get the balance and variety they need to make life stay interesting while staying with the one they love, and giving their partner the opportunity to do the same.

 

Considerations

 

Most experienced swingers will already know there are a few rules to swinging, the main one, having consideration for other people and your partner. If you engage in sexual activity with other people, it can be all to easy to get carried away.

 

Remember these rules.
No means No ( if someone is not happy with doing something, or a situation )
Consider your partner (if your partner is present do not forget all about them)

Consider the feelings of all concerned at all times.

Consenting adults enjoying sex and friendship together is nothing more than a natural thing that we have been doing for 100's of years. Swinging, gay sex and fetish were around long before you were.

 

 

 

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